Every day I observe that I go through varied set of emotions or mental and physical states – happy, excited, motivated, dejected, tired, disappointed, upset, angry and the list goes on! It also makes me wonder that any other person who I work with or even in my personal life must be going through the same wave of feelings and emotions on any given day.
Isn’t that mind boggling that all of us are subject to this wave of emotions and it has a direct effect on our work and life in general. For example, if I am upset with someone in my personal life because of an argument and go for an important meeting in that mood, it may not turn out to be as successful as it could have, had I been in a good mood. Similarly, if I had a bad day at work, I may be rude to my family when I go back home. A personal grudge against someone at work may hamper my professional equation with the person. In the same manner, all the people around us are affected by these things all the time.
It makes me wonder how nice it would be if we were constantly in a happy mood or at least a neutral mental state. It would not only help us achieve more personally and professionally but also give us a chance to think logically. Many a times, in the heat of the moment, we might end up making decisions that we eventually regret. All this can be avoided if we maintain a stable mood.
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Is that really possible? Not if everything bothers us. There are situation in life that one needs to really get out of, do some firefighting or take a pro-active decision. But in many cases, if you think, we just keep worrying about trivial issues that may not even matter after 2 days. The thing, something as simple as spending 15 minutes on deciding what to eat for lunch not only wastes time but also builds up stress because you are under ‘pressure’ to choose the best dish or make the best choice from the options available. This is just a small example. But during a day, we have to make a lot of choices and if every choice stresses us, we are building a monster that affects us over all.
Someone once told me that only things that will have an effect on your life even after three years are worth worrying about. Can you imagine? If we leave out the major business decisions and personal decisions, most of the matters that we are worrying about at this very moment will hold no effect on our lives after three months, leave alone three years.
If we practice the art of avoiding worries for unimportant matters, we will save a lot of time, energy and be able to maintain a stable mood too!
Many times someone may hurt us emotionally by their words or actions – is it going to affect us after three years? I doubt it will. Then should we spend time on it worrying? I think we shouldn’t.
I practice this ‘after three years effect’ on all life situations and increasingly I feel less worried, more focused and more energetic to deal with the bigger decisions and issues. The idea is to not worry but think logically for everything big and small.
If you are able to practice this too, you are on the road to achieve much more than you do already!
Originally published on sureshsalunkhe.com